I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. Instead of setting lofty goals and then feeling guilty and beating myself up when I don’t stick to them after the first few days of January (let’s be real here, who actually commits to these things all year long?!), I instead dedicate my energy toward setting New Year INTENTIONS. How do I want to feel? What traits do I want to embody? What am I going to create? Where am I directing my energy? How am I going to give back? Who am I going to serve?
One of my biggest intentions for 2018 is to be more AUTHENTIC. To show up more vulnerable, transparent, and truthful, and to be the biggest, boldest expression of myself - in my personal life, my business, all of it.
In light of that, I’d like to share with you the 3 biggest mistakes I made in 2017. These mistakes served as some of my greatest lessons, and I hope they light a fire under you to make 2018 your best year yet. :)
MISTAKE #1 - Trying to be like everyone else.
Oof. This was a big one. As I transitioned out of my job and into my business full-time earlier this year, I dealt with some major limiting beliefs and mindset blocks. I was living under these false beliefs that I needed to act like other coaches, have certain marketing strategies, offer specific types of courses, and create certain types of content because I thought it was what you had to do if you wanted to be successful online. Truth is, though, that it actually really sucked. I was overwhelmed, stressed out, and dealing with anxiety JUST like I had been the year before in my corporate job! It wasn’t until I hired a new coach (yes - coaches need coaches, too!) who helped me really bust through these beliefs that I realized: if you try to be like everyone else, no one will be able to find you online. Your clients need you to show up as the TRUEST version of yourself - no filter, no mimicking, no BS. Be yourself. Flaws and all. Admit to not knowing. Embrace the fact that you are a work-in-progress. People will be inspired by your authenticity and your willingness to take action EVEN IF you aren’t 100% ready, or aren’t quite sure what you’re doing. It sparks something in them to do the same!
The more YOU you can be in your business and life, the more your people will be attracted to you. The more abundance, success, and fulfillment will come your way.
2018 Intention: Be more ME.
MISTAKE #2 - Forcing the process.
I’m not exactly a patient person. When I get an idea or am inspired to do something, I like to get it done. Fast. So when I didn’t immediately see a return on something or get instant gratification for an action I took, I often found myself doubting myself, judging myself, or beating myself up for not doing good enough.
In reality, I just needed to slow down and TRUST the process. When you find yourself trying to control things, speed things up, or manipulate the outcome, it’s a sign that you’re not trusting the process enough. The Universe is ALWAYS supporting you. Everything is happening in divine timing. That doesn’t mean that you can sit back in your pajamas and binge watch Netflix all day, then expect your business to take off overnight. Nah. It means that as long as you continue to show up for yourself, take CONSISTENT + ALIGNED action (every.single.day), and TRUST that the Universe is taking steps on your behalf, then your success is inevitable. Slow down. Take a breath. Trust. Trust. Trust.
2018 Intention: Trust the freaking process.
MISTAKE #3 - Being afraid of vulnerability.
Ouch. This one was painful. I went through a HUGE transformation this year in pretty much every area of my life, and with change comes growing pains. Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Taking risks is uncomfortable. Being vulnerable is uncomfortable. One of my biggest mistakes this year was being afraid of my own vulnerability. I wore a mask to my friends and family when I first started my business, acting like I had everything figured out and knew exactly what I was doing. I wore a mask to many of my own coaches, mentors, and teachers, pretending I was totally fine when really I was having mini meltdowns nearly every night wondering WTF I was doing. I was showing up in my romantic life as if things were perfect and I had no baggage, only to quickly see my past wounds and unhealed parts thrown in my face. I wasn’t saying the things I needed to say. I was ignoring the deepest, truest parts of myself.
Vulnerability is key in growing a business, in building a community, starting a movement, and overall, just living a better, more fulfilling life. If you want to reach people and influence them, you need to be willing to be vulnerable. That doesn’t mean you have to cry on a Facebook Live every day, or share your entire life story with the internet, but it DOES mean that you have to be willing to show up as your whole self - flaws and all. If you want to build deeper, more meaningful connections, you need to be willing to go first. To speak your truth. To share your lessons.
It can be uncomfortable, yes, but it is so deeply rewarding when you see how you were able to impact others by just being willing to share your truth.
2018 Intention: Embrace vulnerability + use it to spread my light.
Have you been doing some end-of-the-year reflection recently? Comment below and let me know - what were your greatest lessons in 2017? And how will you apply these lessons to the new year? What intentions will you set moving forward?
Here’s to your growth, expansion, and inevitable success,