The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made in 2017

The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made in 2017

I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. Instead of setting lofty goals and then feeling guilty and beating myself up when I don’t stick to them after the first few days of January (let’s be real here, who actually commits to these things all year long?!), I instead dedicate my energy toward setting New Year INTENTIONS. How do I want to feel? What traits do I want to embody? What am I going to create? Where am I directing my energy? How am I going to give back? Who am I going to serve?

Here are the 3 biggest mistakes I made in 2017. These mistakes served as some of my greatest lessons, and I hope they light a fire under you to make 2018 your best year yet.

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How to Deal with a Vulnerability Hangover

How to Deal with a Vulnerability Hangover

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” - Brené Brown

A few months ago, I wrote an article for a pretty big publication and it just went live this week.

Almost immediately after the editor emailed me with the link, I started to feel it come on: the vulnerability hangover.

It’s that intense, suffocating feeling of, “OMFG, what did I do?!”, followed by a spiraling thought process of how can I hide away in a dark, hidden cave for the rest of my life and never come out?

Here are some tips to deal with vulnerability hangovers BEFORE they even happen, so you don't feel like a deer in the headlights whenever you make an important decision or change.

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Shit my Inner Critic Says

Shit my Inner Critic Says

She likes to show up when I least expect her. She’ll typically make an appearance whenever things are going pretty well for me, like a pesky cold you can’t get rid of or an irritating relative you have to include in your holiday plans even though you’d really rather not. She comes in full force and swiftly interrupts any progress I’ve made, dragging me down to her level of negativity, criticism, and doubt. Before I know it, here I am listening to all of her bullshit -- and what’s worse is that I believe it, too.

She is my Inner Critic, and she’s a real pain in the ass.

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Your Life on the Other Side of Fear

Your Life on the Other Side of Fear

We are all so afraid of fear that we push it away. We pretend it’s not there. We make up beliefs and stories to try and protect ourselves from ever getting hurt again, but by doing so, we live in the shadow of fear and let it control our every thought.

 

We become masters at suppressing our feelings. We push away and resist the things that bring up any negative emotions, and we obsess over chasing after external things that we think will bring us happiness instead. We create a larger and larger gap between how things are now, and how they need to be in the future in order for us to feel happy. Which leads to never feeling enough, always needing to do more, and constantly remaining unfulfilled.

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How to ACTUALLY Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

How to ACTUALLY Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

"Feel the fear and do it anyway."  I'm sure you've heard this, or something similar to this, before. It's one of my favorite quotes and I repeat it pretty much daily. As an entrepreneur and recovering perfectionist, this has become one of my life mantras to encourage me to take inspired action in my life and business despite my fear.
But how can you tell the difference between good fear and bad fear? If I "feel the fear" of jumping off a bridge into shark-infested waters, should I still just "do it anyway"? Is that somehow going to make me happier or live a better life?

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What I Learned About the Universe from a Pond and a Kayak

What I Learned About the Universe from a Pond and a Kayak

I had a spiritual awakening on a kayak today.

I just spent the past several days on a family vacation. I had been with other people all week with very little alone time, feeling stressed out because I wasn’t working on my business as much as I had wanted to, and was over-indulging on wine, ice cream and french fries. (It’s a delicate balance between work and play as an entrepreneur, you know.)

Anyways... I decided to take my family’s kayak out on the small pond behind their house this morning. I made my way out to the center of the pond where the water was still and calm. I just floated there in the kayak for a while listening to the sound of the birds and the trees rustling in the wind, feeling the warm sun on my skin, and admiring the way the blues of the water and the greens of the land complimented each other just so perfectly. I suddenly noticed that the biggest smile had popped up on my face. And in that moment, I realized something: this is the happiness I’ve spent so much time looking for.

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Happiness Starts Within

Happiness Starts Within

The key to happiness isn’t about the external world. The key to true happiness is to maintain inner peace and balance despite what’s happening in the external world around you.

When you can master a mindset of inner balance and live from a place of alignment with your most authentic self, the external stuff doesn’t matter. You’re no longer living in reaction mode – responding to outside stimuli and letting your thoughts be controlled by emotion. Instead, you’re living in collaboration with the universe. You’re proactively creating your environment by choosing how you want to see the world around you.

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