How Your Negative Self-Talk Is Holding You Back

How Your Negative Self-Talk Is Holding You Back

Are you guilty of negative self-talk? Do you find yourself judging, shaming, or beating yourself up on a regular basis?

At first glance, you're probably thinking, "no... I never do that!". Or maybe you're the first one to raise your hand and admit to it. Either way, take a moment to really think about the way you speak to yourself in your head. What are your beliefs about yourself? Do you support your decisions? Are you cheering yourself on? Or are you hard on yourself, always needing to "do more", never feeling like you did quite a good enough job?

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3 Reasons You Aren't Feeling Fulfilled In Your Life Yet

3 Reasons You Aren't Feeling Fulfilled In Your Life Yet

I've been thinking a lot about what it actually means when we say we feel "stuck," "confused," "uncertain," etc.

Many of my coaching clients have felt this way in the past. I'm not gonna lie, I was feeling this way for a while, too. It's this overall sense of a lack of fulfillment. Like you're not quite "there" yet... and that distance between where you are now and where you want to be can seem too painful to deal with.

After giving it lots of thought and reflecting on what I know to be true for my private clients and in my own personal life... here's what I've come up with...along with some journaling Qs to help you work through this shit! 

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Wake Up To Your Desires and Choose to Change Through Joy

Wake Up To Your Desires and Choose to Change Through Joy

So often, we wait to make changes in our lives until it’s absolutely necessary. We become trapped in soul-sucking jobs, draining relationships, or paralyzing financial situations, and hit that point of something NEEDS to change. Or maybe we face a health crisis, or lose a family member or a loved one, and suddenly have a wake-up call that this life is not forever, and that we better get started living it.

Why is it that we so often need to experience such dramatic pain in order to make changes in our lives? What if we could do it differently? What if we could change through joy instead?

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Rejecting My Vision and Pushing Through My Upper Limit Problem

Rejecting My Vision and Pushing Through My Upper Limit Problem

I have a confession to make: for the past two months, my vision board has been suffocating in the trunk of my car. My dreams. My goals. My vision. It was all locked away, underneath flattened moving boxes, used grocery bags, and those dirty tennis shoes I sometimes use for hiking but never bring inside because they’re covered in mud. Yuck.

I don’t know about you, but re-reading the above paragraph makes me feel pretty lame. It makes me feel like a failure. Like I’d given up on my dreams, on my business, on myself.

But actually, I hadn’t given up on my dreams or my vision. In reality, I had encountered an Upper Limit Problem, and I had no idea it was happening.

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The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made in 2017

The 3 Biggest Mistakes I Made in 2017

I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. Instead of setting lofty goals and then feeling guilty and beating myself up when I don’t stick to them after the first few days of January (let’s be real here, who actually commits to these things all year long?!), I instead dedicate my energy toward setting New Year INTENTIONS. How do I want to feel? What traits do I want to embody? What am I going to create? Where am I directing my energy? How am I going to give back? Who am I going to serve?

Here are the 3 biggest mistakes I made in 2017. These mistakes served as some of my greatest lessons, and I hope they light a fire under you to make 2018 your best year yet.

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The Hardest Part of Being an Entrepreneur

The Hardest Part of Being an Entrepreneur

I was recently featured on a live panel of female entrepreneurs who had left the corporate world to start their own online businesses. One of the questions that the organizer asked really struck a chord in me. What is the greatest challenge you’ve faced since starting your business, and how have you overcome it?

Since I left the corporate world to pursue the entrepreneur lifestyle full-time, I’ve faced my fair share of challenges with technology, time management, finances, lead generation, and digital marketing. But none of that seems to affect me - at least not in a major way. The biggest challenge that I’ve struggled with so far as an entrepreneur is the management of uncertainty.

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How to Deal with a Vulnerability Hangover

How to Deal with a Vulnerability Hangover

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” - Brené Brown

A few months ago, I wrote an article for a pretty big publication and it just went live this week.

Almost immediately after the editor emailed me with the link, I started to feel it come on: the vulnerability hangover.

It’s that intense, suffocating feeling of, “OMFG, what did I do?!”, followed by a spiraling thought process of how can I hide away in a dark, hidden cave for the rest of my life and never come out?

Here are some tips to deal with vulnerability hangovers BEFORE they even happen, so you don't feel like a deer in the headlights whenever you make an important decision or change.

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Here's What Happens When You Follow Your Truth

Here's What Happens When You Follow Your Truth

It can take time for logic to catch up to your intuition. Trust it anyway.
There are decisions you will make in life that come from your heart - things like quitting a soul-sucking job, or ending a relationship that’s no longer serving you, or booking a one-way flight somewhere you’ve never been, or starting your business, or sharing your truth in a vulnerable way.
Your ego mind will try to talk you out of it, and come up with excuses or justifications as to why you should or shouldn’t do the thing.
Do it anyway.

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How You Treat Yourself is How Others Will Treat You

How You Treat Yourself is How Others Will Treat You

Remember when you were little and learned about the Golden Rule? Treat others the way you want to be treated. It’s simple enough, and many of us live our lives in this way.

But what we don’t always think about is how the Golden Rule applies to ourselves. We spend so much time focusing on relationships with our significant others, family, friends, and the world at large, that we often forget one of the most important relationships in our lives: the one we have with ourselves.

You have a relationship with yourself whether you realize it or not. The way you think and behave, the thoughts that run through your head, and the stories you tell yourself about who you are and how the world works are all pieces of this relationship. The way you engage in this relationship with the self and how you treat yourself is a strong indicator of how others will treat you, too.

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Shit my Inner Critic Says

Shit my Inner Critic Says

She likes to show up when I least expect her. She’ll typically make an appearance whenever things are going pretty well for me, like a pesky cold you can’t get rid of or an irritating relative you have to include in your holiday plans even though you’d really rather not. She comes in full force and swiftly interrupts any progress I’ve made, dragging me down to her level of negativity, criticism, and doubt. Before I know it, here I am listening to all of her bullshit -- and what’s worse is that I believe it, too.

She is my Inner Critic, and she’s a real pain in the ass.

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